The parents are the most important teachers in their childrenâ € ™ life. Children learn most of their moral values from their parents. If you have noticed, most of them children imitate their parents. Together with love and care, children need someone to discipline them. The parents are the best, who can discipline them. If disciplined by a parent, the child understands that he or she is loved, but has done something wrong and that was corrected.
Education is much more than the materialistic things for your children. Education should be the time with your children, chatting with them every day, teaching them, good and bad, correct them every time they do something wrong, teaches them manners, teach them to share, to love them, play with them, teach they respect what is installed and moral values in themselves. I am firmly convinced that one of the major causes of violence in our world today is the lack of good parenting. If your children teach values like love and forgiveness, you have helped that our world a better place.
Education is the power to hold that the parents their children in the form of decent and caring people.
Parents have the opportunity to teach their children to inspire and teach moral values. Children automatically mimic what they learn at home and learn what they are at home, which they will never forget. You can be sure that they it to their children as well. In view of the above, parenthood is not only important, it's essential. Good parenting on behalf of the parents will turn to a better society too large.
If we teach and inculcate the right values in our children today, we hope for a better future, and we have the hope for a better world, a world in which our children and grandchildren can live in peace and harmony.
Feb 12, 2008
Nurture Your Child Not Your Ego
Parents should never leave their ego wrapped up in their child. Many parents measure their own value and the success of their childrenâ € ™ s, the successes and failures. The children behave like children, and not propose steps early enough, or not live, did not result in a parentâ € ™ s unrealistic expectations, it can have disastrous consequences for the parents and the healthy development of their children. The parent, will focus on the child can be compared to whom the child.
A perfect example of a parent never satisfied with his sonâ € ™ s reached, the mother of a preteen tennis player. If another mother about his sonâ € ™ capabilities, tennis playerâ € ™ s mother replied through his teeth fixed, â € œWell, heâ € ™ s not Roger Federer.â € (referring to a number of world tennis, living legend, and perhaps the greatest player in history.)
The motherâ € ™ s response is typical of a parent for his child hopelessly surprise and dazzle the world. His expectations were devastating for themselves and their children. He flew to compare the joy to see his son play, and because even Meryl Streep isnâ € ™ a good actress to hide, to the disappointment of the type of mother who felt childâ € ™ s holds, self-confidence was probably suffering as a reason for his love of work.
The flip side of the coin is that the parent, the whole credit for the childâ € ™ of the success and created a series of identity to this child. The parent is seeking an extraordinary child. The parent is special because the child specifically. The child is responsible for the parents a sense of self-esteem.
It is important for the parents why their ego their parental duties. Once the umbilical cord, the children begin their journey of life and on the hands, although caution for parents is essential for their growth, the children earn their own frustrations and successes. The parents are then able to comfort, to promote, applaud, the feeling of pride and love to express.
Nehmend personally for parents for parents is also much more difficult. Unable or denies the child to see realistic that the parents, lack of skills, savoir-vivre and behaviour have to work, and then the parents frustrated and confused when the child. Â € œBut my child is gifted, why is it not potty train? I have a bad mother.â €
Recently, a well-known expert on parent was quoted in the New York Times, â € œThe about very young that they lying fallow, â € says Dr. Karp. Â € œOur job is to civilize, to say to them, if you like it, and thank you, € ™ t not spit and nothing, not € ™ t pee where you want. Those are the jobs that came with a toddler.â €
For a parent, that his ego empêtrés with their little ones, Dr. â € ™ preview image above would be terribly offensive, and even insulting. Instead of saying, â € œYes, that's exactly what I do with my life quite small - and I mean everything really enjoy helping small - to civilized, â € œ she says, â € œHow dare say that my uncivilized.â child is € The mother is not able to see that the reality Dr.â € ™ declaration is not a personal attack, he said that his role is important, and it is normal, 'Have a child , which doesnâ € ™ t really understand the social skills and with his love and the training of children to learn.
His goal, and the borders with junior is an important step in the direction of the ego is not possible to get wrapped up in the child. Â € œHelicopter Parentsâ € or parents who hover, are very, in their way inappropriate, often, the children and adults have falsified, the gap between them and their child.
For example, it is now to the parents to come to the defence of their children, who have a poor quality or were challenged by a teacher. Your ego will be damaged if their child needs correcting, and in response to the hair and professional challenge. The term â € € œhelicopter parentingâ was invented to describe those parents in inpatient flight.
A real example of the incredible, but â € € œhelicopter parentingâ happen if a large insurance. The father, a smart, well-educated and capable, twenty-five years, the woman called his boss to talk about his performance. Weeks later, the young woman even miss a flight, a meeting should take that up with their boss. Understandingly It is said that he directly to the office and work. On the contrary, he has 8 hours train walk in the town to try to attend the meeting, in any case. When he asked why they do not like it at the office was instructed she replied, â € œMy mother told me that I am in the meeting.â €
Parenting without a healthy ego to develop self-awareness and the children. The children know their parentâ € ™ love and feel for what they are and not what they have to follow. If the parents allow their children to their own population, which is an extension of themselves, the children start to take responsibility for their own decisions, and may not like, the good and the bad behavior and the election. By establishing the boundaries between parents and the child, the child has become independent and feel not in a hurry for excellence in the hope that their parents feel respected.
An excerpt from a poem, the beautiful summarizes this topic in Kahlil Gibranâ € ™ s The Prophet:
Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of life itself. They come through you but not from you, and though they are with you, they do not belong to you. You may give them your love but not your thoughts. For they have their own thoughts. You can host their bodies, but not their souls, for their souls reside in the house of tomorrow, which you can not visit, not even in your dreams. You can try to be like them, but not trying to do, as you do.
A perfect example of a parent never satisfied with his sonâ € ™ s reached, the mother of a preteen tennis player. If another mother about his sonâ € ™ capabilities, tennis playerâ € ™ s mother replied through his teeth fixed, â € œWell, heâ € ™ s not Roger Federer.â € (referring to a number of world tennis, living legend, and perhaps the greatest player in history.)
The motherâ € ™ s response is typical of a parent for his child hopelessly surprise and dazzle the world. His expectations were devastating for themselves and their children. He flew to compare the joy to see his son play, and because even Meryl Streep isnâ € ™ a good actress to hide, to the disappointment of the type of mother who felt childâ € ™ s holds, self-confidence was probably suffering as a reason for his love of work.
The flip side of the coin is that the parent, the whole credit for the childâ € ™ of the success and created a series of identity to this child. The parent is seeking an extraordinary child. The parent is special because the child specifically. The child is responsible for the parents a sense of self-esteem.
It is important for the parents why their ego their parental duties. Once the umbilical cord, the children begin their journey of life and on the hands, although caution for parents is essential for their growth, the children earn their own frustrations and successes. The parents are then able to comfort, to promote, applaud, the feeling of pride and love to express.
Nehmend personally for parents for parents is also much more difficult. Unable or denies the child to see realistic that the parents, lack of skills, savoir-vivre and behaviour have to work, and then the parents frustrated and confused when the child. Â € œBut my child is gifted, why is it not potty train? I have a bad mother.â €
Recently, a well-known expert on parent was quoted in the New York Times, â € œThe about very young that they lying fallow, â € says Dr. Karp. Â € œOur job is to civilize, to say to them, if you like it, and thank you, € ™ t not spit and nothing, not € ™ t pee where you want. Those are the jobs that came with a toddler.â €
For a parent, that his ego empêtrés with their little ones, Dr. â € ™ preview image above would be terribly offensive, and even insulting. Instead of saying, â € œYes, that's exactly what I do with my life quite small - and I mean everything really enjoy helping small - to civilized, â € œ she says, â € œHow dare say that my uncivilized.â child is € The mother is not able to see that the reality Dr.â € ™ declaration is not a personal attack, he said that his role is important, and it is normal, 'Have a child , which doesnâ € ™ t really understand the social skills and with his love and the training of children to learn.
His goal, and the borders with junior is an important step in the direction of the ego is not possible to get wrapped up in the child. Â € œHelicopter Parentsâ € or parents who hover, are very, in their way inappropriate, often, the children and adults have falsified, the gap between them and their child.
For example, it is now to the parents to come to the defence of their children, who have a poor quality or were challenged by a teacher. Your ego will be damaged if their child needs correcting, and in response to the hair and professional challenge. The term â € € œhelicopter parentingâ was invented to describe those parents in inpatient flight.
A real example of the incredible, but â € € œhelicopter parentingâ happen if a large insurance. The father, a smart, well-educated and capable, twenty-five years, the woman called his boss to talk about his performance. Weeks later, the young woman even miss a flight, a meeting should take that up with their boss. Understandingly It is said that he directly to the office and work. On the contrary, he has 8 hours train walk in the town to try to attend the meeting, in any case. When he asked why they do not like it at the office was instructed she replied, â € œMy mother told me that I am in the meeting.â €
Parenting without a healthy ego to develop self-awareness and the children. The children know their parentâ € ™ love and feel for what they are and not what they have to follow. If the parents allow their children to their own population, which is an extension of themselves, the children start to take responsibility for their own decisions, and may not like, the good and the bad behavior and the election. By establishing the boundaries between parents and the child, the child has become independent and feel not in a hurry for excellence in the hope that their parents feel respected.
An excerpt from a poem, the beautiful summarizes this topic in Kahlil Gibranâ € ™ s The Prophet:
Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of life itself. They come through you but not from you, and though they are with you, they do not belong to you. You may give them your love but not your thoughts. For they have their own thoughts. You can host their bodies, but not their souls, for their souls reside in the house of tomorrow, which you can not visit, not even in your dreams. You can try to be like them, but not trying to do, as you do.
Good Parenting Advice - Are You Giving Your Child The Edge At School?
Today, the pressure to succeed at school starts even earlier than ever. Children in kindergarten and the first grade are held to a standard of success that their parents never had to worry. While in the past the early years of free education and the pressure was simply intended to introduce children to formal education, today, children are tested on their knowledge and ability in the first weeks of kindergarten, and that testing continues for the rest of their public school education. This puts enormous pressure on young children, and yet many parents are not all they can to give their children the edge and help them succeed in school. Giving your child the edge does not mean hiring a teacher, the purchase of an expensive education program or to spend hours each day, the drilling of your child. There are several simple steps that every parent can take to give their children the edge in school.
First, make sure your child has enough sleep the previous night. Many parents did not send their children to bed until they themselves go to bed. Children need growing between 10-12 hours of sleep at night. Whether there is very few children who seem to require less, the majority of children need at least as much. If your child seems tired, it is difficult to wake up in the morning, or has any circles under the eyes, then you should move to his bed until you find the magic number that gives the rest she need. If she is tired and lacking energy then it is much harder for her to learn and pay attention in school.
Second, make sure your child has a good breakfast and comes with a good lunch and tea. Growing children need to eat frequently. They should never be sent to school on an empty stomach and all, they should not be expected to succeed in school for a whole day without regular meals and snacks. If you are concerned about your child simply by reducing the weight of the quantity of meals and food is not a good choice. Instead, they try to provide healthy snacks. That should be your goal, even if the weight is not a concern. Sugary snacks and empty calories are not much more useful than no food at all when it comes to helping a child stay focused and energized throughout the day.
Fourth, make sure your child is dressed appropriately for the day and their school environment. When the weather is hot, make sure they are dressed in cool clothes, when the weather is cold, make sure they are dressed in warm clothing. When the weather or the school environment is variable then provide diapers for the child to adapt accordingly. Also make sure the garment is something the child can manage themselves. Many accidents occur bathroom in young children who have problems with their clothes and the worry of what can provide a new distraction.
Fifthly, the right attitude toward school and your child's education. If you send the message that school is not important that the teacher is not worthy of respect, and that your child's learning is not essential is that your child will receive this message loud and clear. From kindergarten and the first year, some children decide to drop out. Make sure this is not the case with your child by projecting a positive attitude toward school and education.
Sixth, get involved. Remember that your child's teachers and the school administration. Getting familiar with their classroom with the routine, special events and assignments. The more you know about your child's school when life more dynamic, you can be to head off potential problems and help them succeed in school.
If you make sure your child has adequate sleep, sufficient food, clothing and project while the right attitude and get involved in their education, then you have done everything you can give your child ahead of success.
First, make sure your child has enough sleep the previous night. Many parents did not send their children to bed until they themselves go to bed. Children need growing between 10-12 hours of sleep at night. Whether there is very few children who seem to require less, the majority of children need at least as much. If your child seems tired, it is difficult to wake up in the morning, or has any circles under the eyes, then you should move to his bed until you find the magic number that gives the rest she need. If she is tired and lacking energy then it is much harder for her to learn and pay attention in school.
Second, make sure your child has a good breakfast and comes with a good lunch and tea. Growing children need to eat frequently. They should never be sent to school on an empty stomach and all, they should not be expected to succeed in school for a whole day without regular meals and snacks. If you are concerned about your child simply by reducing the weight of the quantity of meals and food is not a good choice. Instead, they try to provide healthy snacks. That should be your goal, even if the weight is not a concern. Sugary snacks and empty calories are not much more useful than no food at all when it comes to helping a child stay focused and energized throughout the day.
Fourth, make sure your child is dressed appropriately for the day and their school environment. When the weather is hot, make sure they are dressed in cool clothes, when the weather is cold, make sure they are dressed in warm clothing. When the weather or the school environment is variable then provide diapers for the child to adapt accordingly. Also make sure the garment is something the child can manage themselves. Many accidents occur bathroom in young children who have problems with their clothes and the worry of what can provide a new distraction.
Fifthly, the right attitude toward school and your child's education. If you send the message that school is not important that the teacher is not worthy of respect, and that your child's learning is not essential is that your child will receive this message loud and clear. From kindergarten and the first year, some children decide to drop out. Make sure this is not the case with your child by projecting a positive attitude toward school and education.
Sixth, get involved. Remember that your child's teachers and the school administration. Getting familiar with their classroom with the routine, special events and assignments. The more you know about your child's school when life more dynamic, you can be to head off potential problems and help them succeed in school.
If you make sure your child has adequate sleep, sufficient food, clothing and project while the right attitude and get involved in their education, then you have done everything you can give your child ahead of success.
Jan 2, 2008
Introduction to Intentional Parenting
Introduction to Intentional Parenting
There are many different books concerning parenting theories and philosophies. You can enter any bookstore and choose from among tens to hundreds of authors and subjects: Jim Fay, Barbara Coloroso, Richard Ferber; advice about explosive, shy, difficult or depressed children; information about parenting your active child and parenting your child with bipolar disorder. Some of the books are great, some are merely good. Some, I wonder how they ever got published. Overall even the most questionable have at least something to offer that can help you parent.
So how do you choose what parenting methods to use? Your sister thinks time-outs are great. Do you do that? Your neighbor's kids sleep through the night. Ferber (Dr. Richard Ferber, Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems) sounds good. Those slings look so cozy. How about Dr. William Sears and attachment parenting?
Have you ever contemplated what comes prior to making a decision about how you want to parent? What is the role that core values play in parenting choices? What messages are conveyed to your children by the choices you make and the behaviors that you typically display?
Most of us know about Ghandi and his non-violent approach. When asked by a reporter, "What is your message?" Ghandi replied, "My life is my message."
What did he mean by this? I believe he meant that how we act, what we choose, our use of language, and how we treat others, all sends the clearest message as to who we are and what are our dearest held values. Thus, one can speak about kindness, but if your children observe you kicking the dog or being irate with the telephone repair person, kindness is the not the message they actually receive.
What does it mean to parent with intention? Parenting with intention begins with understanding yourself and your own values and motivations. Taking time to deeply explore questions regarding your goals, dreams, expectations and history with the help of a parenting consultant will allow you and your partner to truly parent from the heart. This means that you will derive the choices and decisions you make in your interactions with your child, from your deeply held convictions and beliefs. You will find it easier to sort through parenting books and articles and find information that resonates with you and your family, because you will trust your intuition. You will make choices in your own life that provide a model for your children as to what values are adhered to in your family. Parenting with intention is about being present and conscious in all that you do.
How do you parent in a manner that is a reflection of your deepest values? How do you live so that the message of your life is the message of who you truly are?
1. Clearly define in your own mind and spirit your values and beliefs. Have discussions about what has meaning. Spend a few sessions with a coach who specializes in helping you sort out values and meaning in you life.
2. Understand the goals and dreams you have for yourself and for your family.
3. Explore and appreciate your parenting style. What are your strengths? What areas get in your way? You can begin to figure this out through dialogue. Assessment tools are also available through professionals who specialize in family support that can help you do this.
4. Create the space to be mindful and conscious. This includes: time alone, meditation, taking a breath, counting to ten, yoga and other things of this nature.
5. Think through decisions so you are able to respond consciously rather than being reactive. Especially once your children are school age, you can take some time to think about the appropriate course of action when a complex situation arises and let them know your thoughts later.
6. Plan ahead for regularly occurring scenarios
7. Ask, what is the message that I am giving in this situation? What am I teaching my child with my behavior? What do I want to teach my child instead?
8. Learn a communication skill/philosophy such as active listening, or Nonviolent Communication (The Center for Non-Violent Communication) to use as a tool. Skills such as these can be learned through books, courses or brief work with a family professional.
Parenting is the most difficult job you will ever have. It is also the most rewarding and fulfilling. You have the ability to offer the children you so love the foundation and experiences to thrive. This is the greatest gift a parent can bestow. You have it within you right now, to do this. Take the time. Be mindful. Think. Breathe.
Deborah Tutnauer, MEd, MSW, LCSW has been working professionally with children and families since 1985. She has developed and shares with parents, The Intentional Parenting Program™. This is a strength-based, private coaching/education program expanding on the contents of this article. Contact Deborah at 970-349-2650 for more information.
This article may be reprinted and shared as long as the author's name and all contact information, including the resource box, are included.
The Intentional Parenting Program may be found at http://intentionalparentingprogram.com
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The Basics of Good Parenting
Don't be surprised that even failures can be outstanding learning experiences! Encouragement comes when you focus on your child's assets and strengths in order to build his/her self-confidence. It comes from seeing the positive.
Ultimately self-confidence comes from having accomplished things worth being proud of. Reserve praise for things well done. Where encouragement is given for effort, praise is given for accomplishment. Just say, "That's a good start, keep at it." when the work is not yet worthy of praise.
Encouragement is NOT giving compliments for work poorly done, but under those circumstances it IS inspiring your child to work harder and do better. "Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up, according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen." -St. Paul (Eph. 4:29)
Teach responsibility to your children. Let them try things and let them fail once in a while. Don't keep bailing them out. Victory only tastes sweet if we taste the bitterness of failure once in a while. Behavior that is rewarded tends to reoccur, and behavior that is ignored tends to go away -- so always reward and praise responsible behaviors.
How to become a good parent? Accept your child for who he or she is! Please don't make your love, encouragement, or acceptance, dependent on their performance or behavior. Don't turn your disappointments into anger, or at least frustration. Careful of your emotions when your child cannot live up to your expectations and dreams for him or her (why should they?).
Easy steps to master parenting skills: encouragement, praise, responsibility and acceptance. That's the ways to lead you become a good parent.
Jennifer Douglas is a 56 years old mum with 2 successful kids who are healthy and now working in some decision making positions for multi-national companies.
Despite their success, Jennifer is still getting attention from her kids. Her kids are appreciative of her even though they are successful! Jennifer now share her tips on parenting and how to become a good parent over at Budgetpedia.
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A Message for Daddy - Change Your Parenting Life!
Believe this : A recent University study found that the average father in America spends less than sixty seconds per day in conversations with his children!
47 seconds per day will be the accurate number.
What happened nowadays? Fathers should be the one who love their children and want the best for them all the time. Think about it. Are you as a father too focused on your work? Are you as a father too focused on your paychecks? Don't always misunderstand that your child really just need your money.
Your kids should be the major priority in your life! Look in their eyes and talk with them. Be involved in raising them, teaching them, and shaping their character and moral values. Parenting is a "hands on" activity. Do these things on purpose, with a plan and aim on the goal.
Spend time with your kids. Be available for your kids. Success doesn't only depends on how much money you earn, or how much status you attain in your profession. Be a part of your child's world and help him/her in the spiritual growth and building their personalities.
From now onwards, be the role model for your children and spend more than 47 seconds each day in conversation with your children. You must be caring about them in order to learn good parenting skills so that things can get much easier when time goes by. Many parents do regret when their child turns bad due to lack of attention. I am sure this is the last thing you want to happen.
Having a child is like having an added responsibility and I know it is hard. However, if I ask you to talk to your child for more than 50 seconds daily, will you be saying no because it is too much to ask from you? Think about it. I am sure your child will like you more if you talk to him more often.
Jennifer Douglas is a 56 years old mum with 2 successful kids who are healthy and now working in some decision making positions for multi-national companies.
Despite their success, Jennifer is still getting attention from her kids. Her kids are appreciative of her even though they are successful! Jennifer now share her tips on parenting and how to become a good parent over at Budgetpedia.
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Parenting - Is It For You?
Parenting is certainly not easy. It is hard work that many people are not prepared for, requiring responsibility, commitment and selflessness. It is probably the most important job on earth and not everyone is qualified.
Parenting involves many different aspects that work individually, and also works balanced together to influence a child's personality. It is a constant process of raising someone, educating and influencing them, from birth until they reach adulthood.
There is, I think, no exact right way or wrong way to raise someone, but one of the most important things you can do is give your children good examples in yourself to follow.
What about Misbehavior?
Misbehavior is one of the most important signs to you as a parent that your children feel that important needs of theirs are not being taken care of, or met. It is easy to forget this when a parent is just focusing on correcting behavior problems throughout the day.
Try focusing on other topics, such as their brilliance, changing your parenting role from warden to a coach that they respect.
Some parents seem to have two different approaches to misbehavior; one of complete embarrassment when a child is misbehaving in a public place, yet when the same misbehavior happens at home, it does not get the same disciplinary attention.
As role models we need to instill a clear set of boundaries and limits that are constant so not to have a hazy set of rules. We also are parents need to write some things down, notes to ourselves, to remember so we do not forget.
A lot of times parents just fly off the handle when a child's misbehavior pushes our buttons without a thought out discipline plan.
Is respect really all that important?
Respect is the foundation of parenting. Those parents who start early on in their child's life punishing acts of disrespect are far less likely to have to deal with things, such as temper tantrums, later in life.
Discipline is hard and painful, but children love and respect the parents who apply it correctly. When disciplining a child try to remember not to go overboard. At all times your child should feel respected, safe and cared about when around you.
Qualities your child will emulate, and respect are compassion, confidence, kindness and independence to name a few.
Parenting is not an easy job, but you can look at it as an ongoing adventure with never a dull moment. You can enjoy being with your children and can be proud of their behavior.
Parenting is not just kids, it's also about parents.
Dave Low highly recommends getting your free 1 hour mp3 with Dr.Noel Swanson discussing parenting styles and child behavior.
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Positive Parenting Resources
Most of us learn our parenting skills from the way we were raised. Our observations about our own parents manifest themselves once we become parents. Often times, this can have devastating effects on our lives and the lives of our children, especially if we were brought up in less than ideal conditions.
Loving your baby and being excited about parenthood is the very best thing you can do every day. But some times, you really need to know what to expect, so that you can be a better prepared parent. Hospitals and doctor's offices will give you free magazines or pamphlets with guidelines. You will also find helpful books in stores or the library.
Remember that once the child is born, it is being stimulated and is growing because of your love and affection and the environment you create for it. Babies learn from the way you handle them, your facial expression, and your tone of voice. They learn about both you and the world by seeing, hearing and feeling. Your baby will communicate needs for comfort and for food through movement, expression, and voice.
Infants are stimulated by brightly colored wall hangings, mobiles, mirrors, light, and the smells and sounds around them. They enjoy the sounds of tinkling chimes, softly played music, your own singing and humming, and even the simple noises of clocks. They also enjoy massage, changes in body position, cuddling and being rocked.
Get on the floor and play with baby. This lets baby know you love him/her. It also provides a sense of security which is very important.
And, make no mistake about it, your baby will cry! All babies have cries that mean "I'm hungry" ;"I hurt"; "I'm scared" or "change my diaper". You will notice the differences as you spend time with them.
Information for expecting parents can be found at http://babydaze12.blogspot.com for information on organic baby care, proper diets for pregnant women, and environmental factors on unborn babies go to http://babydaze12.blogspot.com
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What Are Good Parenting Skills?
All would agree that raising children is one of the most difficult jobs in the world and where one is the least prepared. Nothing comes close in preparing you for that little demanding creature that you bring home from the hospital, your life is changed from that day forward. All would also agree that it is the most rewarding "jobs" at times and also one of the most frustrating at times.
When evaluating parenting skills, most experts agree how important it is in a child's development for parents to be consistent, set limitations and give positive reinforcements to the child. Their advice tells us to give the child an environment that breeds self improvement, self worth, and self esteem. The problems lie in practicing what they teach us. It's easy to become distracted with day to day stresses and unfortunately some parents, if not all at times, tend to bring those frustrations and stresses out in the way they interact and communicate with their children.
Most of us learn our parenting skills from the way we were raised, our observations and perceptions about our own parents manifest themselves when we ourselves become the parent. Often times this can have devastating effects on our lives and the lives of our children, especially if we were brought up in less than ideal conditions.
For those parents that have had a rough childhood it can become a vicious cycle IF they don't recognize the pattern and learn basic skills to correct the situation. Patterns of abuse and neglect can be stopped if more parents had the foresight to see the pattern and took the necessary steps to stop the cycle. Most often parents do not feel like they have anyone to talk to or that they are predetermined to act that way and nothing can help them. Fortunately more and more information about parenting skills programs are available. Resources like the Parenting Toolbox helps parents gain the necessary knowledge needed to overcome these adversities.
Medical doctors never really stop learning, that's why it's called "practicing medicine". These same principles should be applied to parenting, you should never really stop learning how to be an effective and good parent.
Roxanne Jenkins is a mother of two teenage sons - She continues to study and practice effective parenting skills to continually improve her relationship with her children. One of the resources she uses is the Parenting Toolbox
Another resources that is geared more toward the parents of teenagers is the Teenage Parenting 101.
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